Nairobi men beware: 8 ways she may be using you

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8 Ways Nairobi women are using men

You must be familiar with campus marriages, where men attend classes as their campus wives stay in the hostel cooking and doing laundry for them. Other entities consider this a form of gender based violence, because it only favours the man. For a long time, men have used women for sex, home management and household chores. But time has evolved and so have gender roles. Women are becoming experts as far as using the opposite gender is concerned. Here are 8 ways she may be using you:

#1: She only wants your money

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She will eat your money with a big spoon

Ever seen a woman’s list of things they need in a man? Top in the list is often financial stability. Even the one who lives off her parents stipend wants you to bring money on the table. Nowadays men have started demanding financial stability, but then

#2: She targeted you for her one-night stand sexcapades

Dryspell is real my friend. Gone are the days men would go to the bar and look for the lonely girl sitting at a corner, buy her drinks till she blacks out and then pretend to be a good Samaritan only to obtain free sex that night. Girls are no longer naive. In this era where men are scared of relationships, women are also targeting gullible men for quick sex. She will position herself in a vulnerable position for you to pick her for the night. That week, her sexual needs are already met and life goes on.

#3: She tags you along as a trophy

Even women are asked about their marriage plans after hitting a certain age. The problem is that the modern woman wants to be free in order to pursue her goals. If she is not dating, her relatives start asking uncomfortable questions. In order to put a stop to that, she will just tag along a man whom relatives can assume is her boyfriend.

#4: She wants a child

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Chill, you are now a sperm bank

We all know that women who have not breastfed have higher chances of getting breast cancer. Well, it is not just breast cancer.
Women start developing health complications if they do not have a child at a certain age. Some of the diseases attributed to not giving birth include ovarian cancer, endometrial cancer and dementia.

A woman also gets to a point where she craves for a baby. If she is not dating, the easiest way to get pregnant is by targeting an unsuspecting sperm donor. You must have heard a woman say “All I want is a baby.” Well, it does not matter whether you will be present or not.

#5: She wants someone who can support her expensive lifestyle

Let’s get it straight: there are women who work hard to support themselves. Don’t go thinking that every rich woman around has some man somewhere supporting her lifestyle. But you must have heard that joke told about three men posting a photo of the same child and captioning it: “First day at school.” What do you think happened? That child’s mother has three sponsors.

Yes, there are women who have learnt to live off men’s sweat. She will have one man pay her rent, another provide a car, another to fuel the car, another to take her out on Fridays, another to provide her monthly upkeep money and another take her to exotic destinations over the holiday.

#6: She only wants you for regular sex, legal or illicit

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There is a new crop of women who are now keeping men, especially young boys who take their money and later spent it on their younger girlfriends. This has given birth to men who do not want to work hard, but need an older woman who can support them. Others are advertising themselves as Ben10’s. What is the catch? Women want proper sex from energetic young men who are willing to take money in exchange.

#7: She wants you for booze

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Toast to safe club-hopping!

A girl cannot go club-hopping alone. She needs a man who can deal with team mafisi and drive around drunk. Someone with enough energy to drive at midnight from Thika Road to Ngong Road, and enough guts to bribe the breathalyzer team. You will often be the one buying the alcohol too. And once you’ve had enough booze, you will drive her to her place or take her to your coach where she crashes till she is sober enough. No sex, just booze.

#8: You are her personal guard

Many women know that they need a man to protect them. So if they are going to places they consider dangerous or unsafe, they will ask you to come along. This includes visiting the bar at the middle of the night when rapists are on the loose.

Do you think your female friends are using you? Please share your experience in the comments box below.

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